Psychological Tricks for the Workplace or Personal Life
Would you like to be a little more successful in your professional life and social life? These psychological tricks are religiously practiced by the most successful people. The tricks will assist you to gain vital advantages and a little bit of additional control over outcomes in many different facets of your day-to-day endeavors.
1. Give a Gift
If you would like to influence the way that people treat you, offer them something for free. It doesn’t have to be something expensive. Even small gifts can make a significant impact in people’s behavior towards you. For example, if you leave some chocolate for somebody that doesn’t particularly like you much, they should come around. Another method that has the same effect is doing someone a favor. Maybe you could do something small and insignificant for them that will put you on their good side. Something like making a trip to the copier so that they don’t have to.
2. Be Attentive to Laughter
An easy way to find out which people are closest to each other within a friend group or who enjoys your company the most is paying attention to laughter. A key giveaway is who looks at who when they are laughing at a joke in a group. People instinctively look at and agree with the person that they feel the closest to within a group. This trick will assist you in spotting people who like you, and it is also a great way to figure out which people who care a great deal about each other or are pursuing a relationship.
3. Get Close with an Aggressor
Everyone has had a conversation that has escalated out of the blue. Unless you particularly enjoy drama, I suggest that you try to avoid this type of situation as often as you can. You may have a good argument, but nevertheless, people will become irritated when they believe that they are in the wrong. So, if you ever feel that an argument that you’re involved in is creating tension, just sit or stand next to the other person. You won’t appear as threatening to them as you did when you were not next to them and they will eventually become calmer.
4. Watch their Feet
By paying attention to someone’s feet during a conversation, you can immediately tell whether or not they are comfortable or even interested. For example, consider you are conversing with someone and their feet are aimed towards you, then they are intently attached to the conversation. Contrarily, if their feet are aimed in any direction but at you, they’re subconsciously showing that they don’t feel like continuing the conversation anymore. If their feet are pointed toward a door, then they are trying to get away and you are keeping them from doing that.
5. Mirror Body Language
If you casually mirror somebody’s body language that you’re conversing with, you can then efficiently form a trusting relationship with that person. By mimicking their tone of voice and movements, they will perceive you as more likeable because you’ll seem more compatible with their personality to them. This method, also known as the “chameleon effect” will facilitate smoothness in your social interactions and can also positive effect the relationship between those that interact. People enjoy talking to other people that mimic their facial expressions, posture, and certain other behaviors.
6. The Effect of Silence
If you’ve ever been in an uncomfortable situation such as one where someone is asking you questions about a subject you would rather not discuss, silence would have been a useful tool. Silence could be used to get people to reveal more about their thoughts on the conversation than they had intended to. If you are dissatisfied with the answer somebody gives you, it’s best to keep silent and maintain eye contact. Typically, a combination of eye contact and awkward silence will pressure them to break it by telling you more.
7. Use Subliminal Signals
This tip can be really powerful and a somewhat manipulative. So, use it responsibly and ethically. We usually like to get an approving response from someone. Whether trying to make a sale, or promoting an opinion, we want people to get on board with what we are saying. Nodding while you are delivering your message is a great method to get the person to admit that you are right. People usually like to mimic (as mentioned above), so they most likely will nod back while you are talking. This will communicate to their brain that they must acknowledge that you are correct.
8. Create a False Attribution of Arousal
This trick comes in handy if you are in are dating or in a relationship. The next time you go on a hot date with someone, make sure to include some activities that trigger adrenaline. Take them somewhere exciting to get their heart beating. For example, go on a rollercoaster ride, or go watch an action film. Basically, any activities that involve adrenaline will trick your date to think that their arousal is caused by you, rather than the activity.
9. Provide a Choice
Whenever you want someone to make a decision that you prefer, give them a choice that lies within the frame of your decision. For example, consider you would like your children to do a task that you know they wouldn’t want to, do not ask if they would like to. Rather than asking “would you mind taking out the garbage,” give them a list of options to pick from like “would you like to take out the garbage now, or would you rather take it out later tonight.” The children will feel like they have more control than they do by giving them an option. Not only does this clever trick work with children, it also helps you get you way with adults. The servers at your local restaurant do this to you all of the time.
10. Use Passive Voice
In research writing, passive voice can be lousy and inappropriate. In social interaction, however, being passive can help a lot to maintain cohesiveness and rapport. Thus, instead of saying “you did not send me the book,” say “the book wasn’t sent.” Notice the difference between the two sentences. The first one sounds like a blame, while the second one focuses on the object. By using passive voice, you can easily avoid confrontation and conflict.
11. Call the Person by their Name
Remembering someone’s name is very important because people feel important when someone mentions their name. Therefore, calling people by their name can make them like you instantly, and it will establish a sense of trust and friendship right away. As difficult as it may seem, if you can habitually remind yourself not only to remember someone’s name upon meeting them, but using it in the following conversation, they will find you wonderful and charming.
12. The Power of Touch
Touch is a powerful tool that helps people understand emotions better. Physical reactions, like touching someone on the knees or the shoulder can create a physical and an emotional connection. This is especially true during conversations that contain moments of excitement, laughing, and joy. This will help to prove the sincerity of your words, express the right emotions, and help you gain the trust of others.
13. Make Other People Repeat their Jokes
Many jokes stop being funny when they need to be repeated, and you might be able to use this as an advantage. For example, if someone told a joke about you, act like you couldn’t hear them correctly and ask if they would reiterate the joke. Once they’ve repeated it, it’s not as enjoyable as when they previously told it. Conversely, you could act like you did not understand the joke. Quickly ask if they would explain why it is funny. Making someone explain their joke is often worse than making them repeat it. Either way, the joke isn’t as funny anymore.
14. Ask for Help the Right Way
We all enjoy getting other people to do things for us. Whether we actually need their help or we’re just being lazy. Social dynamics indicate that in workplace and personal relationships, nobody likes to talk to an asshole. If you ever need a favor from someone, start the conversation with the phrase: “I could really use your help.” Most of the time, people will not decline your plea and will usually help you. Mainly because people don’t like the feeling of not offering to help somebody out, and besides, it feels good to be able to help.
15. Give Validation
A large portion of people’s actions result from a need for validation. Then, what are the most efficient and least intrusive means to get somebody to enjoy your company? Help to provide them with what they want. Next time you’re conversing with someone and they say something that’s really important to them, rephrase what they just said, but in your words. This should lead them to think that you’re good at listening and that you’re interested in them. It also makes them feel important.