How to Tell If A Person is Fake (15 Signs)
It can be very difficult to distinguish a genuine and a fake person-as difficult as figuring out the difference between a work of art and a well-made replica. So how can you tell if a person is fake?
Some people are good at masking their true emotions! But, as good as they are, there are some behaviors that will clue you into their phoniness. Knowing these will come in handy as you meet new people. Pay attention to the following signs, so the next time you encounter a fake person you can avoid falling for their wiles.
1) Fake People Are Way Too Excited to See You
Fake people are always extremely happy to see people they do not know. Ever run into an acquaintance or friend you haven’t see in ages and they embrace you like you’re their best friend? Anything beyond the usual “How have you been? I’ve missed you!” should strike you as odd. Has the conversation ever led to something like “Oh my god, I am so excited to see you. We should hang out.”? They will almost certainly not follow up. But since they invited you to do something, they feel like they have earned your favor.
2) Fake People Think It Is All About Them
Fake people always turn the conversation back toward themselves. They crave the approval of everyone they meet. To get it, they brag about themselves. If you get an “it’s-all-about-me vibe,” you should ask yourself whether the person in question is genuine.
3) Fake People’s Body Language Puts You On Edge
It is difficult to pick up on body language, but if you know where to look, it will become obvious that their body language contradicts their words. Fake people give away their insincerity through their body language. They cannot control their body and their mouth at the same time. For example, they may be acting like they are really interested in you, but their feet are pointing away-which implies you want to leave.
4) Fake People Seek Attention To Validate Themselves
If you encounter someone who is constantly seeking attention or approval, be aware that they engage in these kind of behaviors because they need confirmation that other people like them. Whereas genuine people allow you to discover who they are because they do not care if you dislike them, fake people need you to buy into the story they are telling. If you don’t pay attention to them, they will become angry. This is because they interpret your lack of attention as you rejecting them.
5) Fake People Are Passive Aggressive
Fake people need approval so badly that they feel they must put other people down so that they appear better in comparison. They most often accomplish this through passive aggressive language: they will insult you with a compliment. These compliments usually take the form of questions designed to make you feel bad. For example, they may ask where you bought an item of clothing or whether you’ve lost weight. This will reduce your self-confidence. You may not even realize what is happening.
6) Fake People Don’t Listen When You Talk
A fake person will ask a question to make you feel you are interested in them, but they won’t listen to the response. They pretend to be engaged in the conversation, but you will find that they are on their phones texting, browsing social media, etc. They will often pretend to be listening and pretend to react to what you are saying. But their reactions will seem inappropriate because they were not actually paying attention. An even better tell is that they will not remember basic details of the conversation.
7) Fake People Always Talk About The Misfortunes Of Others
A fake person will talk about the misfortunes other people suffer. They will pretend to be concerned about the person, when in fact they enjoy the attention they get for feeling sorry for someone. They want to seem like they are being sympathetic to others. But if they seem overly sympathetic, you should try to assess whether they enjoy discussing the crappy things others are going through. If they spread other people’s misfortunes around through gossip, it also means they're talking about you in the same way.
8) Fake People Like To Show Off
When someone is genuine, they will not make a huge deal about their talents. They will not feel the need to point them out! But when someone is fake, they like to show off and brag about their greatness because they want to make sure everyone knows. They do things like donate or volunteer for charities, but they brag about their philanthropy to everyone they meet. Fake people only do good things if it makes them look good or benefits them. They want their friends to give them props for their behavior.
9) Fake People Exaggerate and Lie
You will notice the inconsistencies, and the flat-out lies fake people tell as they recount different versions of the same self-promoting stories. If you try to verify their stories, you'll find that the stories are fictional to make the person look good.
10) Fake People Interrupt While You’re Talking
A fake person won’t listen to you until they have finished talking. They are not interested in what you’re saying. This kind of behavior is a dead giveaway you’re talking with an insincere person, regardless of how nice they may seem. They are clearly demonstrating that they do not care about you.
11) Fake People Belittle You
We already mentioned that fake people often redirect the conversation to talk about themselves. But they will occasionally do this in a way that puts you down. They will ask how your weekend was so they can tell you how great their weekend was. They will ask if you’re going on holiday so they can talk about their holiday. Or, they will ask about your life, and put you down. You get the point. Their intention is to belittle you.
12) Fake People Try To Please Everyone
Fake people are juggling balls they can’t keep in the air. They will try to say yes to everyone because they cannot stand rejection and they hope that by saying yes to other people, they will win favors for themselves. They promise to help people and then do not deliver on the promises.
13) Fake People Are Never Available
They never return your calls. You show up, but they are busy. You run into them on the street, but they are late for a meeting. They can’t come to your party because of work. A fake person tells you they can’t wait to see you again, but there’s always some reason he or she can’t hang out with you.
14) Fake People Only Respect Power
A genuine person will be respectful to everyone. A fake person will only be nice and respectful to you if you have the power to get them what they want. If you have more experience at the job, they will be nice to you so they can get ahead. If you represent a social opportunity for them, they will be nice to you so you include them. But once they get what they want, they will forget to be respectful because they do not care about you as a person. They only want what you can offer them.
15) Fake People Are Too Busy To Help
Fake people will disappear as soon as you need them. They hang around until they get what they need from you, but the minute you need something from them, they bail. Whether it’s a shoulder to cry on after a breakup, or helping you move, you can never count on fake people to help. They are not willing to take a minute to lend a hand to someone in need. We are all self-interested, but a person who is authentic is the same on the outside as they are on the inside. A true person will not pretend like they are your best friend if they are not willing to help you.
Now that you know how to tell if a person is fake, keep an eye out for fake people. Ignore them so you can make room for more meaningful, genuine relationships.