How to Read Anyone Instantly (10 Tips to Reading Body Language)
Upon the first introduction with a person, our brain is rushed with new information. Sometimes, it is very difficult to figure out a specific person’s personality. The most important thing to understand is the ‘how’ in human communication. Roughly fifty-five percent of what we convey conversationally is derived from body language, thirty-eight percent from the pitch of your voice, and only seven percent from what we actually say.
When we meet someone initially, we must consider the following three factors—in addition to what a person’s appearance may suggest. So, if you want to gain insight into someone’s personality when you first meet them, keep in mind the following clues.
Some people say that the the true windows to the soul are the eyes. The key to being aware of what type of eye contact a person is giving you, is to pay attention to the context of the conversation. For example, if a person literally can’t take their eyes off you, it could mean there’s a romantic interest. On the other hand, when you look someone in the eye, and they can’t bring themselves to look back at you, it’s a sign that they’re either nervous, or they’ve got something to hide. That said, if you’re having a conversation with a person whose stare makes you nervous—especially if they are standing very still and not blinking—something is definitely up; they may be lying to you.
If you want to see how comfortable a person is, take a look at their eyebrows. There are a few primary emotions that cause your eyebrows to elevate: fear, surprise, and worry. Try to raise your eyebrows if you are having a casual and relaxed conversation with a relative. It’s difficult, isn’t it? If someone conversing with you elevates their eyebrows, and the subject matter isn’t one that logically would cause nervousness, fear, or worry, then that’s a sign that they’re feeling pretty uncomfortable.
These days, more and more people plump up their lips with Botox injections. But it turns out, that those with aesthetically pleasing, full lips are identified to be immature and childlike. These young-looking people may also be deemed submissive and/or naïve. On the other hand, thin lips are deemed to be distinguished. They are associated with intelligence and determination.
The mouth has an easier time lying that a person’s eyes. Wholesome smiles extend to the eyes, contracting skin to create the effect of crow’s feet around them. People sometimes smile in order to shield what they are truly feeling and thinking, so if you ever want to know whether or not a person’s smile is genuine, look to the corner of their eyes for any sign of a crinkle. If the crinkles aren’t there, then the person is hiding something behind that smile.
If you meet a person for the first time, and they only want to talk about their great significant others or praise their work colleagues, chances are that they happen to be a pretty good person. Studies indicate, that the more a person rates other people as being polite, kind, well-mannered, and loving, the higher the probability is that they also possess those characteristics. However, the opposite is true as well. Anyone that describes other people as manipulative, backstabbing, and nasty most likely also have these traits. It's also possible that they have a history of depression or personality disorder.
Paralanguage is nonverbal communication such as your tone, pitch, or manner of speaking. Basically, it’s a fancy word for needing to pay close attention to the way in which someone says something. For example, if someone is answering you in monotone, they’re most likely unattached to you and are not interested. Sarcasm is another example. If someone uses sarcasm, what the person means is actually the opposite of what the words say. So, pay close attention to the emphasis they put on words and the way that the person says them. It gives you a big clue as to what their true intentions are.
People that are welcoming and open to meet new people will position their body so that it’s facing you and they will make eye contact with you. On the other hand, if you initially meet a person and the first thing they do is glance away to either side, then it is subconscious body language which means that they are trying to find a way out of the conversation.
Nodding usually indicates that a person agrees with what you are saying. But, exaggerated nodding may signal anxiety about your acceptance. When you tell a person something, if they nod more than usual, then this could mean that they are concerned about your opinion of them, or that you question their capacity to follow the conversation. On the other hand, frequent nodding could also be unconscious signals that are prompts for the other conversant to move on to another subject or leave the conversation entirely—just like when a person looks down to their wristwatch or handles their keys.
Chin and Jaw
When someone is trying to make a decision, they tend to rub their chin. They might be looking up, down or to the side. It’s a sure sign that they are deep in thought. A clenched jaw is a sign of distress. Whether the person is saying something good or bad, this might indicate a heightened level of discomfort. The dialogue may be heading toward something that they are anxious about. The person’s conscious may be in another place and they’re focused on the thing that’s causing them stress.
The way that a person presents himself/herself might give you an idea about their level of confidence. An example might be, if a person walks upright, looking forward with their shoulders slightly back, they most likely have confidence and a high level of self-esteem. However, if someone slouches over and looks toward the ground when they’re walking, that gives the opposite impression. This may or may not mean they have a diminished sense of self-esteem, but it often gives off that impression. .
It is believed that the hands broadcast what the head is thinking. When a person is rubbing their hands together, generally it means that they have a positive feeling about something. People usually do this when they are hopeful about something good coming up in the future and they’re excited about it.
You can discover numerous things by someone’s handshake. Lackadaisical and soft means that they are most likely a pushover or have a submissive personality. Too abrasive and hard means that they could be controlling types. The duration of the handshake is also something to keep track of. Too short could signal a form of disagreement and too long and things start to get weird. It is likely that the person may not wish to make any type of connection. But, it also could mean that they only have limited time.